Lots wrong here I think.
First up there's the assertion that a civil partnership is somehow a "semi-commitment".
"Shall we get married?"
"Well, I don't know, I'd like to show some commitment, but have a kind of easy get out clause. You know, the secretary at work is pretty fit and I think she's been giving me the eye. So I wouldn't want to get married just to get a divorce in a couple of months time after I sleep with her at the Christmas party. However, I can definitely see the advantages of a civil partnership to help with tax, benefits and if you were to somehow get killed by the work's secretary driving too fast and knocking you down..."
"Okay then my love, civil partnership it is!"
Civil partnerships were set up to allow homosexual couples the same rights as married heterosexual couples. This is simply because UK law (and I assume other laws in other countries, I don't know) does not allow for homosexuals to be married. Homosexual couples do NOT have the option of marriage in the UK.
A civil partnership is a halfway step by the government (half arsed too IMO) to acknowledge the modern day lifestyle. Gay couples live together (and commit together) in the same way straight couples do. They just couldn't formalise it. So if a gay couple lived together and built a home over 40 years, then one died? The deceased family would have "first dibs" on their estate. A civil partnership gives their partner the same rights as a married partner in a straight couple (i.e. the partner gets first dibs).
It's important to understand it's not a "can't be titsed with marriage, let's get civil partnershipped". It's an important legal standpoint and the only legally recognised way for a homosexual couple to prove they are life partners. Marriage just isn't an option.
So, with that taken into account, NO. Heterosexual couples should not be allowed civil partnerships.
If you want to live with somebody and not commit? Fine.
If you want to commit, then get married, or if you're a gay couple, get civil partnershipped. It's just like that.
UC said:
Marriage is generally a religious ceremony.
Over here, we have "government marriage". I was married by the state, not a religious ceremony. It's essentially the same as a civil partnership, a legally recognised binding contract of commitment. No church was involved at all
It's
very common over here. To then add to Ciall's point about stress and expense. I think, including the reception and clothes, our wedding cost about £500. The honeymoon cost considerably more (but that's an optional extra
).
It was a simple day, very relaxed and everyone had a lot of fun. No stress, no great expense. All that is what you make of it. I have other friends who have just "nipped to a registry office" and got married without telling anyone at all. No fuss, just a piece of paper to say they're committed. Their lives were no different afterwards really (makes you wonder why bother, but ho hum).
UC said:
My view on it is the same as it is on gay marriage or any of that - offer secular options for anyone, but don't force a religion to do anything they don't believe in.
Going to rant a bit here; sorry :lol:
First up, I agree. If the religion says "we think homosexuality is wrong", then they shouldn't agree to marry homosexual couples. Same as Catholics won't marry divorcees (I think that's still the case). It goes against their views, and they shouldn't (and I don't think can be) forced to perform the ceremony.
However, how anyone homosexual can actually be part of most major organised religions with their views on homosexuality is beyond me. So I suspect it's actually a moot point. I think if you have to argue with the foundations of a faith to get them to sanctify your partnership, then there's something wrong with your choice of faith really.
And this leads me to the rant :lol:
I hate, really really hate (and sorry if this offends anyone) people who demand a church wedding who aren't religious. People who maybe were forced to go to Sunday school and retain some vague idea of religion, but believe that marriage should happen in a church. Same goes for christenings.
I don't know if anyone knows much about the process behind marriage and christenings? You have to apply to the church for the right to do it. The church will then question you, ask if you're committed to God and the church and then you must attend church in the weeks leading up to the marriage/christening.
On the day, you must then offer your commitment to the Lord and church for their sanctimony over your wedding/christening.
This is a big thing to me. Unless you are actually (seriously) intending to then stay with the church, regularly attending the rest of your life (and ensuring your children attend after a christening) then I think it's a terrible lie. It's something that I just really dislike.
There are other options available, take those and don't lie and make a mockery of the beliefs of people who actually take it seriously. Sorry, rant over :lol: