As a gay person - I'd have to think carefully! And acknowledge that I'm quite hypocritical i.e. I really want to do all the Poland creds, and really want to visit Puy de Foy despite being run by right wingers ....oh and do the Sea Worlds despite not agreeing with large aquatic animals in captivity.... so you know.....I'm a stupid human!
Nah.
Looks sh*t.
Too hot.
In countries where being gay is more of a taboo, people don't assume "gay" regardless of behaviour and mannerisms. It's just not as socially coded as it in countries that are more open. Yeah, it's s**t for the people who live in those places, but potential tourists worrying about getting arrested the moment they mince off the plane are being slightly melodramatic. Yeah, there might be issues if someone is trying to make a statement by what they're wearing, or are openly affectionate with someone of the same sex. Having said that, in middle eastern countries it's not uncommon to see men holding hands. It's not perceived as gay at all. That might be different if it were two westerners I guess, but like I said earlier, the assumptions aren't the same.So this post is going to be a mess. But this is from a perspective as a fairly young 21 year old gay man.
I personally do not have any problems with Muslim countries, countries like Turkiye are places i would visit in a heartbeat. Being gay there is a taboo, but by law it has been legal since 1858. It is a place where i would be more discreet with my boyfriend and not mention my sexuality openly, but the state of Turkiye are not going to arrest me on the street.
In Saudi Arabia, the laws would really keep me from enjoying myself. To know that my trip could end in rocks slowly killing me to death is something that deeply concerns me. I know they are not going actively pursue tourists, but i still would find myself being too self conscious about acting slightly feminine, making too much eye contact, and overall feeling like i need to conceal everything that could "hint" that i was gay. I would also need to not go with my boyfriend, i am sure that wouldn't work well in any capacity. I feel like i would have to seriously hide everything about myself, and even then, what if i come across as too feminine at passport control or in front of the police.
I have spoken to a few people from Saudi Arabia or who have lived there, and apparently a lot of the stereotypes in regards to LGBT are very true. Beheadings and stonings are common place, and it is not just a threat, it is a guarantee. If you are LGBT, you better be a good actor.
The problem is not that if you're part of the lhbti+ community you have to think about holding hands or not. It's bigger than that. It's about having the feeling you can't be your real self. The feeling that if park employees would know your sexuality you suddenly would not feel welcome anymore. I don't know the feeling, but I have a lot of friends and family that do know.In countries where being gay is more of a taboo, people don't assume "gay" regardless of behaviour and mannerisms. It's just not as socially coded as it in countries that are more open. Yeah, it's s**t for the people who live in those places, but potential tourists worrying about getting arrested the moment they mince off the plane are being slightly melodramatic. Yeah, there might be issues if someone is trying to make a statement by what they're wearing, or are openly affectionate with someone of the same sex. Having said that, in middle eastern countries it's not uncommon to see men holding hands. It's not perceived as gay at all. That might be different if it were two westerners I guess, but like I said earlier, the assumptions aren't the same.
Having said all that, I wouldn't be remotely considering going to those countries if I were trans, but that's a different issue entirely.
You've missed the main point there completely, which is that unless someone is really trying to stand out, they're probably not going to get clocked as gay because the assumptions are very different. It's such a taboo that it doesn't cross people's minds.The problem is not that if you're part of the lhbti+ community you have to think about holding hands or not. It's bigger than that. It's about having the feeling you can't be your real self. The feeling that if park employees would know your sexuality you suddenly would not feel welcome anymore. I don't know the feeling, but I have a lot of friends and family that do know.
I get your point and my reply was not meant as disagreement. You're right. But what I am trying to say is that the emotion and constant awareness while being at such a place is probably bigger than the realistic chance of being spotted and getting into trouble for your sexuality. But I might not be in the right spot to speak for everyone's own experiences.You've missed the main point there completely, which is that unless someone is really trying to stand out, they're probably not going to get clocked as gay because the assumptions are very different. It's such a taboo that it doesn't cross people's minds.
You're absolutely right in that it probably would not be as fixated on. But it is hard not to be paranoid when at any time if i let the mask slip, suddenly i go from tourist to criminal. I'd probably be fine! But its hard to relax with that kind of thing hanging above my head.You've missed the main point there completely, which is that unless someone is really trying to stand out, they're probably not going to get clocked as gay because the assumptions are very different. It's such a taboo that it doesn't cross people's minds.
It's not "being gay" that's illegal though; it's gay sex, so even if people knew you were gay, there's still nothing going to happen. I'm not trying to tell anyone that they're feelings are wrong, just that it's not really the cause for concern that they might think it to be. The arguments regarding not visiting due to not wanting to support those kinds of countries hold a bit more water than the perceived threat to personal safety.You're absolutely right in that it probably would not be as fixated on. But it is hard not to be paranoid when at any time if i let the mask slip, suddenly i go from tourist to criminal. I'd probably be fine! But its hard to relax with that kind of thing hanging above my head.
You're absolutely right in that it probably would not be as fixated on. But it is hard not to be paranoid when at any time if i let the mask slip, suddenly i go from tourist to criminal. I'd probably be fine! But its hard to relax with that kind of thing hanging above my head.